Menopause is Your Power Shift
I was always here but now I’m letting you know about it!
When people talk about menopause, the focus is almost always on what you lose…
Fertility.
Energy.
Your temper.
It’s framed like a disease. As if it’s something to endure, medicate, or quietly manage (emphasis on the quietly!). And yes, it can be tough. Everyone’s experience is different, and we’ve all got that one friend who says, “Oh, I didn’t even notice my menopause,”. She better shut up or I’ll be throwing a hot water bottle at her.
But I’d like to have a different conversation and change the emphasis. Menopause isn’t just about loss. It’s a transformation. And when you’re on the other side, you discover something extraordinary.
Menopause is your superpower.
There’s a massive gift in the “zero-fuckness” that it brings.
My Story
For years, I poured all my energy into one thing: being a Mum. It was all I wanted, and all I could think about… and in the end it was long, tough and brutal. The process stripped away my personality and built a protective wall around my heart.
When the children finally came along (through all my moaning they are the answer to my prayers), all my energy went straight into them. Every ounce of me. And for years, I thought that was enough. Until I realised: if I didn’t start looking at myself first, I couldn’t possibly be the role model my girls needed.
I couldn’t show up for them fully unless I was showing up as me.
Working with a coach helped me reclaim the pieces of myself I had put away: the singer, the creative, the corporate professional, the spiritual seeker, the woman behind Fairy Copymother.
Now my kids think I’m pretty weird. And that’s okay. Because they’re seeing the real me. That’s my gift to them
Reframing loss
We need to reframe this whole idea of loss. We’re not so much losing hair as gaining care. We’re not losing youth but gaining truth. We’re not losing energy but gaining connection with our energetics.
Menopause is not an ending, it’s a transition. Science even shows that it’s another time in life when our brain plasticity is maximised. This means we’re wired for change, for growth, and for stepping into something new.
So let’s use this transition. Let’s make it a chapter of gain, of reinvention, of power. This is the moment to change the way we interact with our bodies, our people, and our world. Life begins here and now.
The power of not asking
You know that saying: It’s better to ask for forgiveness than for permission? Menopause teaches you that you don’t need either. I don’t need anyone’s forgiveness (except for myself) and I certainly don’t need to be asking anyone for permission.
Life will carry on whether people like what you say or not. That doesn’t give you licence to be rude (keep it respectful, people) but it does give you the freedom to speak your truth. To stop softening your words and to trust that you are safe enough to stand in your new-found power.
That’s the superpower: the courage to speak up without apology or explanation.
Practising your voice
Of course, power needs practice.
Start close to home. Say what you mean to the people you love, with kindness and respect.
Then branch out. Share more of yourself with friends (thank Goodness we’re allowed to talk about how we feel these days).
Then carry it into your work. Write it for your clients. Let it spill into your audience and your community.
Each time you use your voice, it grows stronger. The muscle of authenticity flexes and like a good Kombucha SCOBY grows the “mother”.
Magic doesn’t just happen
I feel I need to clarify this one little thing.
This is work.
It isn’t effortless.
It isn’t instant.
Finding your authentic voice and stepping into your space, takes work. It takes de-programming, pushing through corporate, protective speech. It means practising bravery again and again.
But when you do that work, something magical happens. The energy shifts. Your words resonate. The right people lean in, because they can feel the truth in what you’re saying.
That’s attraction marketing at its core: resonance, not performance. Truth, not tactics. Magic, built on real work.
Embodying your message
If you’re not ready to do this alone, that’s where I can help. Together we’ll:
Uncover your authentic voice.
Shape the words you’ve been holding back.
Start small, building your confidence until your truth shines through everything you write.
Trust me, menopause isn’t the end of your life - there’s nothing wrong with you. In fact, there’s a whole lot that’s right and that’s where we begin your story.
Once you step into that? You’ll never need permission again.